How to know when you are orgasming

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Sex therapists frequently get questions from frustrated female patients who struggle to have an orgasm. In fact, a Cosmopolitan survey of 2, women ages 18 to 40 found that only 57 percent of women have an orgasm most or every time they have sex with a partner. We reached out to three sex therapists and gathered their expert tips, suggestions and other kernels of wisdom that will have you on your way to the Big O. The reasons can be physical, mental or emotional in nature, according to sex therapist Ian Kerner. Again, sexperts say there are a number of potential contributing factors at work here.

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Medically speaking, an orgasm is defined as the changes in the body when there is intense pleasure, causing an increase in pulse rate and blood pressure, explains Dr. Orgasms can also cause spasms of the pelvic muscles that cause contractions in the vagina and contractions of the urethra in penises, she adds. Shepherd explains that thanks to the neurochemicals released during orgasm, an orgasm can feel like a sensual trance and create a state of sexual ecstasy that you can feel both physically and psychologically. There are some physical signals that can clue you in if you're on your way too. When you're aroused, your heart beats faster, your breathing quickens, your nipples become erect, and your genitals become engorged with blood. As arousal climbs, these sensations increase until you orgasm.

Here's What Sex Therapists Tell Women Who Have Trouble Orgasming

If you took sex-ed at school, you probably learned all about pregnancy, STIs , and safe sex practices. While all of that is super important, there's a pretty good chance that your teacher never once uttered the word "orgasm" throughout the semester. Which, is pretty weird, considering it's a natural biological function, and sexual pleasure is a normal, healthy part of life.
It can be tough to tell what an orgasm really feels like for a woman. Whether you've been trying to have one on your own, or with a partner, you're likely looking for that intense, explosion-like sensation so many people seem to talk about. It's a frustrating situation to be in, but one that is probably more common than you realize, Vanessa Marin , a sex therapist who focuses on helping clients have tells Bustle. There are quite a few reasons why it might be tough to orgasm , or why it might not be the "mind-blowing" experience were hoping for. But Marin says it's important not to give up hope on the journey learning how to orgasm on your own.